36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better. (1 Corinthians 7:36-38 KJV)
Giving one’s daughter in marriage
In this passage, the apostle is generally understood to be giving advice about whether or not to give one’s daughter in marriage, based on the same principles he previously laid down. In that culture and time—especially among the Jews—it was considered shameful for a woman to remain unmarried beyond a certain age, often raising questions about her character.
So, Paul says that if a man thinks he is acting improperly toward his daughter by keeping her unmarried, and believes it’s best for her reputation that she be married, then he may do as he sees fit. Let him give her in marriage—it is no sin (1 Corinthians 7:36). But if a man has firmly decided to keep her unmarried, and is under no pressure or necessity to arrange her marriage, and has the freedom—with her agreement—to maintain that decision, he also does well (1 Corinthians 7:37). Therefore, the one who gives her in marriage does well, but the one who chooses to keep her single does even better, especially given the current situation (1 Corinthians 7:38). This was not a general rule for all times but a wise and fitting course of action during that particular season of hardship.
This teaches that parents should guide their children in matters of marriage, but they should also consider their children’s preferences and not act with absolute authority. It’s not only important to determine whether something is lawful but also whether it is wise and beneficial, especially in uncertain times.
Some interpreters believe Paul may also be referring to a man’s own state of virginity, suggesting that “his virgin” refers not to his daughter but to his own commitment to celibacy. Though this interpretation is debated, the general meaning remains: it is not sinful to marry, even if motivated by concerns like avoiding disgrace or temptation. Still, the person who has full control over his decision, feels no internal or external pressure to marry, and chooses to remain single, acts in a way that is spiritually beneficial under the circumstances of that time.
Ultimately, Paul encourages Christians to make decisions—especially about marriage—that are guided by what will best support their spiritual well-being.